Re-evaluating Success

One of my very good friends is a holistic executive coach. She does a 30 day group coaching program about once a quarter called Stepping into Someday. I have attended some of her other retreats and events, but this one scared me. What am I even looking for? What do I want out of this? I decided to sign up and dive into the program after Husband left on his deployment. With the next half year being spent solo, it seemed like as good a time as any to do some soul searching, to grow, and to focus on me.

In one of our calls, we got to discussing success. Specifically, how I define success in various aspects of life. My [outdated] picture of success probably looks a lot like yours… basically, being superwoman (or superman). Doing everything “expected of me” flawlessly with grace and ease (and with perfectly coifed hair, of course).Read More »



Have you guys heard of the singer/songwriter, Khalid? He’s got a few hits that I’m totally digging right now: Young Dumb & Broke ( & Location ( I first learned of him when someone on a morning radio show raved about having just discovered his music. I had to agree, I instantly loved him & his music. He’s got a really chill vibe and just seems so relatable (high school Gabi totally could have related to him; who isn’t young, dumb, & broke in high school, right?). Go check him out, hopefully you like him just as much as I do.

Anyway, I was just listening to an interview he did. The interviewer started out by mentioning that he moved around a lot as a kid, ‘cause it was something they had in common. When I hear that anyone “moves around a lot” I instantly think there must be some military association. Because who else in their right mind would move every 2-4 years, amirite?!Read More »

Sorry I’ve Been A Shitty Friend: A Multiple Choice Form Letter

In light of my recent thoughts on friendships, this was too good not to share! …and it doubles as a fun game of Mad Libs!

Wine and Cheese (Doodles)

Dear (fill in name of friend here),

How are you? It’s been way too long, I know. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve thought of you and then said to myself, I should really (call/write/at least click like on your vacation photos) but I’m sure you know how it goes. No matter how organized I am, it seems like (life/the news/a hangover) is always getting in the way. It’s so true what they say. Time sure does have a habit of flying when you’re (procrastinating/bemoaning the state of humanity/binge watching Better Call Saul), doesn’t it?

Funny thing is, your name came up just the other day. Someone asked me, “Hey, how’s (fill in name of friend here)? (He’s/She’s) got to be almost (ready to move/ready to have a baby/done with school), right? And it…

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Getting Older… and Other Random Musings

I was just driving home from work thinking to myself, Self… you’ve been pretty uninspired this week. You set a loose goal to blog once a week, but you have nothing to write about. What’s up with that?!

That little “pep talk” led me down a rabbit hole of thoughts. All my thoughts and excuses led back to, “but I’m just so tired!” And I had to laugh at myself as I thought, is this what happens when you get to your 30s? You just cry about how tired you are? One weekend of very tame “partying” in Miami Beach takes a whole week to recover from? I mean, I start yawning at 9pm and I’m in bed by 9:30pm… is this normal for someone my age? Does this mean I’m old?Read More »


I read a blog post recently from a woman who, from what it sounds like, is struggling to adjust to her new military life. It tugged at my heart, ‘cause I get it. I’ve been there. And I’ll be there again, and again, and again. Almost everyone I’ve met feels this way at one point or another, like they will never make friends in their new city. Like they’ve completely lost touch with all of their friends from “back home”. Like they are alone.
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